Quote: Alfred J Kipper @ May 18 2011, 9:30 PM BST
It sends totally the wrong message to society to propose a scheme whereby some rightfully convicted (date)rapist gets let out of jail in a few months, because he knew her, or thought she led him on. This must scare the hell out of women, in truth.
In my opinion, being raped by someone you know is more damaging.
My boyfriend when I was 17 decided to have sex with me, even when I'd told him I didn't want to, and said no. A lot. The only reason I was at his house was because we'd been to a party, the hosts had a row and it was awkward. I didn't have money for a taxi and he told me it wasn't safe for me to walk home alone at night. I appreciate the irony.
It's easy to avoid walking down alleyways, it's a hell of a lot harder to learn to trust people again.
He's not part of any statistics, I wouldn't have been able to prove that I didn't consent. I would have had to face the accusations of leading him on.
I'm not alone, I know a lot of women who've experienced similar. Not one of us reported it.
To trust somebody, and then have that happen, is something you just don't ever get over. It's not less serious.